Sometimes it's better not to question somebody's human behavior... When I moved to Maryland, I told myself I would make extra efforts in getting to know my neighbors. I quickly became friends with some of the ladies living in my neighborhood. We were all around the same age, and had established professions. I enjoy linking people together, before I can introduce them to my close circle of friends in the area, I thought it would be best to test out the waters.
The neighborhood group consisted of Lucille, Jennifer and myself. Lucille is a mother of 3, and works from home with her husband. Jennifer lives next door to me with her husband, and has no children. Although we all have different family dynamics, we all seemed to get along. The three of us ended up going on two "dates" together. The outings consisted of dinner and some beverages. A relationship started to develop, and we became friends.
Lucille suggested we take a trip to Baltimore to have dinner then enjoy a night out at the new casino. I thought this was a great opportunity to bridge my close circle of friends with my new neighborhood friends. I hadn't had a Ladies Night in a while. I decided to invite 10 of the ladies I knew in the area that would enjoy themselves.
Lucille wasn't having it. Lucille forgot to pass on the memo that she wanted something more "intimate" - yawn. I decided to acknowledge what she had expressed, and cut the number down to 4 of my closest friends.
The night had arrived, off we went to Baltimore. I had previously mentioned to everyone that we should all dress a little more sexy than our typical 9 to 5. Upon my arrival, I immediately noticed segregation between my close friends and Lucille plus her crew. One group looked like they had just come from a funeral, the other looked like they were ready to have a good time. No need to explain who belonged to which category.
Lucille wasn't having it. The entire night she didn't bother to acknowledge my friends. The waiter could have separated the table, and nobody would have noticed. The bill came, and Lucille made it known that she was paying for all the bereaved and pall-bearers. I felt a certain type of way.
Next stop was the casino. As soon as we got there it was the departing-of-the-seas. My close friends and I went and found this Mexican spot in the casino, we danced the night away. Lucille - no where to be found. All our phones had died, and we couldn't find Lucille and her group. We weren't quite sure what to do, so we left for a soca party.
The next day, once my phone was charged, I had texted Lucille, explaining our phone situation. Lucille wasn't having it. She responded with a very short message. A couple days later I was on Facebook, and I noticed Lucille and I were no longer friends. I couldn't remember "un-friending" her, it was very odd. I decided to reach out to her, and see what was going on; at the end of the day, I did consider her a friend. I asked her if everything was OK.
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| When someone begins to be short with you, something is wrong. |
At this point, I still didn't understand how we weren't friends on Facebook. I was receiving strange vibes from Lucille. I decided to question some more.
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| Opportunity to save this relationship |
Have you ever been in a texting argument with a significant other, and it is taking them forever to respond. Lucille was taking her sweet time formulating her response. My vibes were correct.
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| Was she breaking up with me? |
I had to re-read this several times, and even had my co-workers read it. I was confused. Was she breaking up with me? What had I done wrong? This is the first time in my life that a female has broken up with me, and the crazy part is - I don't even know why.
